From a matrimonial website, I found a girl named G, who is around 33 years old (divorced within a year). I am 28, but I am comfortable with the age difference, and her divorce status is not an issue for me or my family. I work as a tech professional in the Gulf, earning in the millions. She is a doctor by profession and seemed very sweet and thoughtful in our initial conversations.
She is also looking for a job in the UK, has already cleared her examinations, and spent 11 months in the UK before getting in touch with me. During our initial conversations, I found myself attracted to her. Within 15 days of our video calls, we started having sexual conversations and engaging in intimacy over video.
She kept insisting on meeting in person, while I was planning to move to Germany for a couple of months. Without informing my family, I traveled to her city for two days. We spent time together, and we became physically intimate during our first meeting (which was my first time). After this meeting, our conversations continued, and our families also started getting in touch.
While I was in Germany, during one of our calls, she asked me why I hadn’t asked about her body count. When I did, she told me she had been with about 12 people in total. After her divorce, she joined dating apps and had casual encounters with nine people. She was also in a relationship with a boyfriend for a year.
Additionally, during her 11 months stay in the UK, she had casual relationships with two people. She shared all of this information with me honestly. Since she was divorced, her virginity or age never mattered to me. After returning from Germany, I visited her again, and we became intimate. While checking her Instagram, I found some old sexual chats from before we met.
Curious, I downloaded her Instagram, Facebook, and Gmail data and found a few hotel bookings, all of which were from after her divorce and over a span of four years. For the past 10 months, she has been fully committed to me and is always in touch. I am confused should I marry her?
I have never been in a relationship before, and in the last nine months, I have been physically intimate with her for about 7 to 8 days across 2 to 3 visits. My heart tells me not to leave her. I also feel that, morally, it would not be right for me to seek another woman for marriage since I have already been intimate with her.
At the same time, doubts cross my mind. Will she miss her exes? Is she truly invested in me emotionally? Could she still engage in such behavior in secret after marriage? Sometimes I feel that if she had mentioned her past relationships during the first month of our conversations before we met in person. I might not have moved forward with her.
She only disclosed everything after we became physically intimate. She has assured me that she has sincerely repented and left that part of her life behind. Later, she also informed me that she had surgery for fibroids, which is quite common. She has never been pregnant or had an abortion.
I was taught not to judge anyone based on their past. With this understanding, I am willing to marry her. But I am still confused should I go ahead with this marriage? Will our future children be affected by her past? I understand that raising children is not just her responsibility it is mine as well.
Question: Should I marry her, knowing that she regrets her past and has moved on?
Option 1: Yes
Option 2: No
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