Hi, I am a 30 years old married wife, married two years ago. It was an arranged marriage. When we met before marriage, my husband seemed okay and showed some interest. But after marriage, the problems started. He began forcing intimacy from the very first night. He took me for granted and started behaving however he pleased. He has this mindset that once you’re married, he can do whatever he wants.
He would always go out with friends and come home late at night. He never asked me to come along. If I asked him to spend time together, he gave lame excuses and avoided me. I used to work from home and also helped with cooking and other household chores. I was very bored and lonely, spending all my time at home. My in-laws began giving me full responsibility for cooking and managing the house.
My husband continued living like a bachelor going to work and partying with friends. He went on trips with them but never thought we should spend time together. He only showed interest or spoke to me nicely when he wanted intimacy. My mother-in-law is very interfering and controlling. There were days when there wasn’t enough food, but she still expected me to serve her son properly.
She wanted me to do all the work, serve him food like an ideal daughter-in-law, even if he came home late. She never valued my job or work time, constantly giving me tasks and taunting me. My husband showed no interest in me emotionally but criticized my physical appearance saying I had too much body hair. I even tried changing myself to look the way he liked.
But he continued to use me only physically and avoided any meaningful conversations. I left their home after one year but was forced to return due to pressure from my parents. It never felt like home. It was suffocating living with in-laws who interfered in everything and a husband who didn’t care. When my office called me back for work-from-office, my in-laws pressured me to leave the job.
When I refused, the pressure increased. I didn’t want to return after office hours because they had started demanding a child. They didn’t want a wife or daughter-in-law-they wanted a maid who would quit her job, take care of the house, and ask for nothing in return. I didn’t go back. Now, my husband has decided to end the relationship. He’s not even willing to talk.
What should I do? Should I leave him or fight for justice? I gave everything, our families spent so much on the marriage, and I genuinely liked him. I tried everything to save the relationship. But now, he just wants to escape his responsibilities, blame me for everything, and walk away.
Question: Should I agree to end the marriage or fight for justice?
Option 1: End without fighting for justice
Option 2: Fight for justice
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