We started seeing each other when I was 24 and she was 21, and this was mid 2009. Our relationship got physical too soon, which is always a red flags back then, we perhaps didn’t know. The next year, she got married, and I came to know the same day. After crying, convincing, doing everything I still attended her reception. She is a single parent child and was always controlled by her mother. She accepted the marriage when she was threatened that her mom would die.
Post her wedding, we made out in a hotel room. We were too young to understand what was happening. Long story short, she went abroad, came back after two months, and we had been in a never married relationship since then. In 2015, we started being in a long distance relationship, and ever since, our meetups changed from frequent to occasional. Post COVID, I relocated to her city that was in 2021. We met in September, and that was it we never met again despite staying in the same city.
We fought over it almost every day. Slowly, she started withdrawing from the relationship, and I wasn’t sure why. I thought maybe she wasn’t talking to me because we were fighting every day. So, in December 2023, I decided to go no contact to give us some space to reconcile. I planned to break the no contact on her birthday in February it was always a tradition that we wished each other before anyone else. I called her that night; she didn’t pick up.
The next day, we spoke briefly, and the following day, I insisted on talking about what was going on with us. Then she told me she had been seeing somebody at work for the past 7 months and that she was serious about it. I, like an idiot, thought she must be joking. The next day, she told me she sees a future with him and has found love. When I asked if she had told her mom, she replied that her mom had no problem with it. In the last week of April, she got married. I found out from her Facebook.
Our religions were different, but it never mattered to us. Somehow, our relationship lost its charm. But she did what made her happy, and I am happy for her. I only regret that I lost my young years for somebody who got married within two months of our breakup after a 14 years long relationship. Everybody has the right to choose their happiness, and I advise not to get into emotional attachment unless you’re sure you will marry them. Get into a relationship only if you want to marry, and don’t spend more than 6 months on anyone.
We made many mistakes, but it would have been better if she had thought about me before taking that step. I have now moved on gracefully with no grudges toward her and have grieved during this period. I deserve someone to love me too, and I am hopeful someone out there is waiting for me.