Ours was a love-cum-arranged marriage. We had been sexually close since our dating period. To be honest, he was damn good in bed. But after marriage, the situation turned upside down. We got married 7 months ago. Besides all the struggles, our families accepted our love, and I was on cloud nine. After marriage, he has been somewhat struggling financially. He is doing business, and business is all about ups and downs, right?
Since our marriage, we haven’t been together more than 8 times in 7 months. I am not pushing him for pregnancy. All I need is him. I know this sounds selfish. But being in my place, I bet you won’t think so. I can understand him, but my hormones don’t, and my bodily needs don’t. I have had open conversations with him several times, but he is gaslighting me. Every time, he would say that he is stressed and doesn’t want to have sex. But he doesn’t consider my needs and wants.
I don’t want to force him, but I would ask him the reason for his denial. I would even say, “Till our death, we need money, and every other man/woman you see is facing some kind of stress, but they won’t skip things that affect others.” In my case, he is skipping sex with me because of his stress, which affects me both mentally and physically. I would even question my beauty and feel insecure. I am stuck between whether to prioritize sex or go with the flow with suppressed feelings.