Hi, I have been married for 10 years and have two children. My husband has recently started university and changed a lot: his appearance, fashion sense, and he is more into fitness. I did not think too much about all of this until he told all his family and me that he tells everyone at Uni he is single. He states he says this because everyone there is younger than him, and so he can fit in with the crowd. (As being married, in his eyes, means you’re not fitting in.) He even lies about his age to his uni friends.
He is living two lives, and I feel embarrassed by him as I don’t understand him anymore, and why he would lie about his wife and children and the fact that he has told me he has done this! This is the first thing I tell people when I meet them, about my children and husband. I have come to realise he has a lot of narcissistic traits. He always talks about all the girls at Uni and how beautiful they are. He has made a lot of female friends and particularly talks about one to me (his wife). He states she is like his sister; however, he does not have a sister.
I have mentioned to him that I do not like him talking about other girls as I am his wife. I have been a very naive person and always believed everything he has said. I have now come to the realisation that he is a compulsive liar. Our relationship has gone downhill due to so many reasons, one being that he is never emotionally available for me and his children. He has said for the past year that he will leave, however, he has not. I am unsure what to do. I can’t leave as I have nowhere to go.
Question: Do you think this girl is more than a sister? Any advice on this situation? I am unsure too, please…
1: Yes
2: No