He was my fitness coach, and we fell in love. Now he has quit that job and is taking care of his family business. I’m a techie currently doing a non tech job while also running my own software startup. He doesn’t speak English, so I teach him online every day. I buy him skincare products and help him improve his personality because our lifestyles are totally different.
But that’s alright, I’m happy to do it since he takes such good care of me and puts in effort to make me happy. I’m a Brahmin, and he’s not from my caste. I told my mother about us, and she was heartbroken. We fight every day at home. I am mature enough to marry the person I love mature enough not to leave someone I love just because of my parents’ restrictions.
I’m 23 now, and I plan to marry him when I’m 26 or 27. Please give me the courage to do a registered marriage because things may feel right to me, but not to my parents. Their world is so small they can’t handle what the relatives might say. I’ve already tried explaining things to them, but there’s no way they’ll agree.
We are very orthodox. I was born and brought up in a temple, so it’s extremely hard for them to accept such a decision. They have always been naturally toxic, constantly reminding me how much they’ve spent on my food, clothes, and education. They literally say things like, “Ugh, I don’t know when I’ll see all the money I spent on you come back.” They see me as an investment, not as their daughter.
I’m earning and saving money to pay them back. Of course, it’s my responsibility to take care of them, but they are extremely money minded. I’ve faced so much trauma and emotional blackmail. I can’t take it anymore. I’m working from home as well and struggling to balance everything. They even told me that if I marry someone against their wishes, I should pay back every rupee they’ve spent on me since birth.
I’m really ready to settle it. When I started going to the gym, I also began eating chicken for protein. I honestly don’t mind staying with a non vegetarian now. My only option is to marry him legally without my parents’ involvement. I’ve already decided, but sometimes I get really scared. Because it’s not just about me it’s about my family, who serve at the temple.
The people who visit the temple will definitely talk about it. I even considered living a secret married life, but that won’t work in the long run. So that’s not an option. Do you all think I’ll have more courage once I turn 26 to marry the one I love? How is life after 26?
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