I’m a 27 years old woman from a middle-class family, and all I’ve ever wanted was to clear competitive exams and build a stable, independent future. I’ve cleared prelims twice, but I’m stuck in a nightmare that no one seems to care about. We live with my older sister, who’s married but stays with us because her husband lives in another state.
She recently had a baby, so my parents are taking care of both her and the child. She earns well and supports the family financially, which means we are all expected to bow down to her commands. My parents are exhausted, and though they try to do everything, I can’t bear to watch them struggle-so I help. But that means my study hours are ruined.
My sister constantly interrupts me when I try to study, calling me for chores or her child, and if I don’t respond, she gets aggressive. She scolds my aging parents, and they stay silent because they know she’s depressed. She’s married to a toxic man who doesn’t care about her or the baby, and even though we’ve begged her to leave him, she refuses. Instead, she dumps all her frustration on us.
My parents are in their 60s and sick, but she still rules the house like a dictator. The only way out for me is to get a job, to finally lift my family out of this hell, but I’m drowning. I can’t focus, can’t prepare properly, and now my parents want me to just get married. According to them, marriage is the solution to everything.
Recently, they found a “perfect” proposal. I said no. I told them I want to study, I want to work, I want to stand on my own two feet before marrying anyone. They backed off, but my sister didn’t. She nags me every single day, forcing me to marry this guy I didn’t even like. I begged for two years. Just two years to fix my life, to make things better. But no one listens.
Now my father is seriously ill. My mother isn’t doing well either. I’m mentally breaking down. I’m haunted by the thought-what if I give in and marry, and end up with a man like my sister’s husband? What if he kills my dreams, like hers were crushed? What if I lose myself completely?
Question: Should I listen to my parents and get married before getting a job?
1: Yes, get married
2: No, study hard and get a job
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