I met a guy through an arranged marriage setup, and we hit it off immediately. He had a great personality, his family was wonderful, and both our families were open minded, giving us time to meet and talk before making things official. We had two months before our roka
In this period, there were endless talks, emotional bonding, him opening up about his past, even saying things like, “I really like you,” “I crave to meet you,” “Thanks for coming into my life,” and more. However, after the roka, he suddenly became distant, hesitant to touch me, and reluctant to engage emotionally.
Knowing about his past, where he was cheated on, I tried to be understanding and gave him space. As time passed, I noticed he never initiated calls, criticized my appearance, and treated our conversations like a chore. Whenever I confronted him, he would gaslight me or dismiss my concerns, saying he needed more time.
Even after I had a major accident, his response was cold simply telling me I was “too good” and that he didn’t feel anything for me yet. I waited, hoping something would change or that the guy I said yes to would return, but instead, he started ghosting me for days, choosing to talk to his friends instead of me. When I gave him space, he claimed I was suffocating him.
I repeatedly asked if he wanted to call off the marriage, but he always said no, asking for more time. Despite our long six month courtship, he made no effort to grow our relationship and refused even basic emotional or physical affection like hugs or cheek kisses which used to be comforting before the roka.
I suggested involving our parents to guide us, but he insisted we keep things between us. Then, behind my back, he told his parents and acted like everything was fine after each serious argument. Finally, I learned from his friends that he was still talking to other people, including the one who had cheated on him, which made me question everything.
I gave him one last chance to come clean and decide whether he truly wanted to move forward with our marriage, but he remained confused suggesting we just be friends after marriage or delay it. He even told my mother he wasn’t comfortable with me, despite crying in front of me and claiming otherwise. At that point, with the support of my family, I called off the marriage.
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