Summary: A woman in her 30s, devastated by her partner’s infidelity and disrespect, is grappling with her self worth. Now, she faces a difficult decision: return to her manipulative partner or embrace an uncertain future through arranged marriage.
Confession: “I was in a relationship with XYZ. His mom contacted me on September 20th, and we met on the 22nd. When I checked his phone, I discovered he was cheating on me. When I confronted him, he was rude, even though I was crying. I only had 2,000 in my bank account, but I still spent 1,000 on shoes for him. Later that day, I saw his Instagram chats, where he was flirting with another girl and even asking for her hand in marriage.
He asked me to send intimate photos, but I refused, thinking of my 65 years old father, a taxi driver. When I questioned his motives, he said, ‘You talk like my girlfriend, so I’ll behave like your boyfriend.’ After that, he left, and I cried. He removed me from social media and WhatsApp. Now, I’m confused. I invested emotionally in him for years, wasting my time since I was 28. I’m jobless and heartbroken, and I fear arranged marriage. Will anyone accept me?
He never verbally abused me, but he constantly disrespected me. He advises me to focus on my career, but he lies and never owns up to his mistakes. He drinks occasionally, about once a year. At arranged marriage meetings, I feel anxious. My previous relationship (which lasted two months when I was 27) was also toxic and dangerous. Considering my situation, should I go back to XYZ or try arranged marriage?
My father is 65, and my younger sister is 26. After my mom’s accidental death, I have a visible scar on my right hand. XYZ’s family is dominant but decent. They’re from my village, and our relatives aren’t bringing potential grooms for me. At 30, I feel lost no job, no love, and no marriage prospects. Those I love always hurt me, and it feels like hard times reveal people’s true nature. Should I go back to XYZ or ask my family to arrange a marriage?”