Hi, I’m 30 years Male from Seattle. I did my masters from Texas and moved to Seattle. I had a happy life during my masters period. Friends, parties, college, trips and clubbing. Then all of sudden I got no friends here in Seattle. Then I found a girl (she is 28 from telangana, one and only daughter) who is pursing her masters, she has no one here and was struggling (she came to seattle for kuli pani for 1 month).
I helped her in lot of ways. The reason behind she has no one is her attitude and behavior. She had fights with everyone, literally everyone. She got connected to me because I was the one who was good to her. I thought We are good, but slowly she got obsessed of me and we are in long distance. Now i’m not able to do anything, always on phone, She is controlling me. She is more into sexual desires and exploration.
I’m okay with sexting and all online stuff once in a while. She expects me to do everyday and i’m tired of it. She has the weirdest fantasies ever. Like, she’ll ask me to show my Dick on video call, then tell me to shake it without moving my body like I’m some kind of magic trick. And then she wants me to throw imaginary rings while she just sits there laughing like it’s a comedy show. I swear, I feel like a circus act.
At the same time, she always wants me to talk to her from morning to night. Nen em cheyakudadhu, talking to her while peeing, eating, cooking, working, vacation, family time, friends time. I dont have my space and I’m trying to break up with her. She is not making me do anything in my personal life that I want to do. Enthasepu tanatho matladali. Tanaki on campus leda natho call/texting edey pani, inkem pani ledu.
Konchem avraina chepandi nalo issue unda tanalo issue unda???? Nadi oka suggestion ammayi bagundi ani kakruthi padtey mi life lo mental peace kolpotharu. So please okati rendu sarlu alochinchi commit avandi, nalaga kakruthi padi mental peace pogottukokandi.
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You’ve taken the bold and important first step by recognizing the toxic, controlling relationship and wanting to end it. Your safety and well-being are the only priority in this process.
Secure your digital ids.
Confide this problem to one or a few trusted people
seek domestic violence / counselling support to get therapeutic help to navigate out of this abusive relationship including potential blackmailing when the other person knows you are backing out.
Plan the breakup: downgrade your communications- use donot disturb mode while at work and during important appointments , stay off internet when it’s not required, never text/email, make a new personal email/additional phone number and migrate. If she knows your address and/or place of work, make plans to relocate your career and or work, and play it unknown to her for a while while playing cold in communications-
Don’t explain or argue- never react and don’t get triggered.
Inform any mutual friends about this and get their support.
Say your final decision- short n simple and block her right away and disconnect your old phone number and delete your old email. Delete your social media profile or beef up its security just visible to your trusted contacts.
Get some counseling therapy to vent off the trauma and rebuild yourself.