So last year, a dentist (Female, 25 years) shifted next to my flat for 6 months. She used to come to my mom whenever she needed help. We started talking and hit it off pretty soon. She was already in a long term relationship in her hometown. She said her family doesn’t like his family and that she was just dragging the relationship she didn’t have feelings; it was just that she was attached.
She said she would break up, and that’s when I showed my interest in her. Soon, we started dating. She used to come to my place almost every evening, and we had our evening tea and dinner often at my place. My parents knew we were dating, and on day one itself, I was clear that if we were dating, it should be for marriage only then let’s proceed, else don’t as my parents were already looking for a match.
I never delved into her past, though after we got physical, I came to know that she wasn’t a virgin. She never shared, and I never asked anything about her previous relationship. It didn’t matter I was a virgin until then as the person mattered more. We went on dates, met every night at her flat, and had a great time until she was here.
In between, just after we got into the relationship, she went to Delhi for a trip with this guy. I asked her to cancel, to which she said it was pre planned and it was his birthday, assuring me that she would make sure he didn’t come close to her. I still trusted her and let her go. She promised me she would talk to him about us and clear things, but on returning, I was told that she didn’t, as she “didn’t go there to fight.”
She stayed for another month before going to another city for 6 months. Long story short we were talking, everything seemed good, except whenever I asked her if she cleared things with him, she always gave excuses. After a point, she said that he doesn’t talk to her anymore. I trusted her, but deep within, nothing felt right. Many times I asked her, but she always said he didn’t contact her anymore.
We never met after she left that flat. I planned many times to meet, but she always had some issue or the other. She was always on the receiving end she never put in effort. I was pampering her always and did a lot for her. There wasn’t a single thing from her in the one year we were together.
After returning to her hometown, things changed she started avoiding my calls, gave inconsistent replies, and made excuses about being busy. One evening, I asked her directly if she was in touch with him, to which she said, “Only since I returned home.” I contacted the guy and found out they had met that evening itself and were always in touch. I told the guy everything we had.
I got a call from her immediately after this, and she just flipped, saying she didn’t have feelings for me anymore and that “this is what was there in destiny.” When I asked her if she thought she did the right thing playing with my emotions and feelings for a full year she justified her act of cheating/betrayal by blaming me for my reaction of telling everything to her boyfriend.
In fact, she knew my parents knew, and even my mom did a lot for her. But she just used my feelings, emotions, love, and the money I spent on her. I was blocked immediately from everywhere, and now they are engaged. I genuinely loved her, literally prayed every single day for this person and this is the brutality with which she cheated.
My gut always doubted her, and I asked her quite a few times, “If there is something, please be clear,” but she always dodged the questions. I saw his profile in her account, saw him liking her pictures confronted her and asked her to remove him, but she didn’t. It’s been 3 months. I have lost my self confidence. My health has taken a toll. Stress levels and anxiety are at their peak.
Why was I wronged when I never did anything wrong? Why was I lied to, despite doing everything and trusting her?
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