People aren’t who they appear to be. I invested my time, emotions, and hard earned money, only to be cheated and left picking up the pieces.
Deception: Shortly after our marriage, she immediately claimed the right side of the bed in our home, which at first seemed like a minor preference. However, I noticed this pattern continued no matter where we went. We had been to 3 to 4 places within 15 days of marriage. It was only later that I discovered the real reason she had limited movement in her eye, unable to turn it more than 90°. She insisted on always sitting on the right side of any space be it the bed, sofa, or dining table so that everyone, including my family members, would be positioned to her left, within her limited 90 degree field of vision.
When she was in the car with me, she would sit and lean on the door, turning her body toward me (the driver’s seat) instead of sitting normally like everyone else. This arrangement ensured no one would notice her restricted eye movement she was literally playing hide and seek in my home. When we eventually questioned her behavior always tilting her head and sitting on the right side she revealed her limited eye movement.
Seeing her struggle was painful for me, as her disability affected her appearance in a way that was hard for me to face. This discovery weighed heavily on me, adding a new layer of difficulty to our relationship. At the hospital, doctors confirmed that her limited eye movement was genetic and present since birth, caused by issues with her muscles and nerves connected to the brain. They explained it couldn’t be corrected surgically, and the most heartbreaking revelation was that this condition would likely be passed on to any future children.
This news deepened the emotional strain in our relationship, ultimately shaping the difficult path we faced. That ultimately ended the marriage. Instead of being honest with me, she hid this fact, covering it up with strange and irritating mannerisms like tilting her head all the time. This deception about something so basic was just the beginning of the dishonesty I would come to realize in our relationship. Everyone must now be wondering why I didn’t find out before marriage. We come from a Muslim family, and they claim to be very religious.
They wore hijabs all the time and insisted on no photography during the engagement or marriage. Seeing this, I didn’t call her for a personal meeting and ended up getting scammed.
Question: Should the girl and her family inform and get permission?
Option 1: Should inform before marriage
Option 2: Shouldn’t inform and think it’s a minor issue