I am a final year MBBS student. I be friended a male batchmate (A) through my female friend (M). At first, I thought they were a thing, but then they both clarified that they are just friends. He is my first male friend. I was attracted to him, and as our conversations continued, I started liking him a lot. We talked very frankly.
After a few months, I discovered that he liked my friend M, so I distanced myself. I stopped talking to him, also because our exams were near. After exams, we reconnected and started talking again, including late night conversations. I was very clear that I would only keep him as a friend. I have never talked to any guy like that because they usually take it the wrong way, but here I was sure he would never cross any boundaries.
We started talking daily on calls. He said M never talks on the phone since she’s at home. He only called me, and I couldn’t resist maybe I liked the emotional support. I got attached to him, and whenever he mentioned M, I started getting jealous. I knew it was wrong, so I began distancing myself and showed cold and harsh behavior. Now, after one year of friendship, I don’t want to continue the bond.
He gives mixed signals, which causes uneasiness in my mind. He says things like, “Why didn’t you come earlier in my life?” and “A girl should take initiative.” He once asked whether I want a love marriage. When I said, “There is no one,” he replied, “There is.” I am very confused. I have blocked him many times, which hurt him. He likes her a lot, and I don’t want to be a vamp. She only sees him as a friend.
I even motivate her that he is a nice guy and that they could take it further, but she totally declines. At present, I had a huge fight with A. I told him I don’t want to continue. I even called him “characterless” for talking to two girls. It hurt him a lot, and now he said he doesn’t want to talk to me. He blocked me from everywhere. I am hurt, but I didn’t want to be an option.
If he had any feelings, he should have said something in the early phase when I sensed it. Now, he only talks to her, which is fine, and I’m happy for him. He taught me how to love myself and boosted my confidence. I will be forever grateful to him. But everyone comes into your life for a specific purpose, and I think he was there for that.
I regret saying hurtful things, but maybe it was meant to be this way. I miss him a lot, but now I will focus on my studies. I just don’t want to face him in college, as it will be uneasy for me.
Question: If he returns, should we pick up from where we left?
Option 1: Yes, give him a chance. Continue your friendship.
Option 2: No, totally ignore him and move on.
You can share all your Confessions with me over Gmail or Google Chat Praveenpandu6102@gmail.com