In September 2023, he approached me on Instagram claiming he knew me. I noticed we had some mutual friends, so I added him. He started flirting, and after a while, asked me to consider marriage. After 2 to 3 months, I agreed. He promised to end all his past relationships. He was a bit of a Casanova, but I trusted his words and never asked what was going on with those other girls.
In March 2024, I met his mother. Everything seemed to be going well. He insisted I tell my family about our relationship. I did, and they agreed, as we belong to the same caste. My father wanted to meet his mother too, but due to some unavoidable family issues on his side, I felt it wasn’t the right time. His family was upset, so I asked my father to wait. This dragged on from late May to June.
Eventually, his family issues were resolved, and he returned to his workplace. Then in July 2024, I found out he had a girlfriend and they had been together for five years, also physically involved. He had previously told me she was just a good friend. Clearly, that was a lie. He deceived both of us, telling each of us we were “just friends.”
The other girl left him when she found out and informed me that they were no longer together. He promised me again that he loved me and wanted to marry me. I believed him again. Things started to feel normal again. Then I saw a heart emoji comment from that girl on one of his posts. I messaged her, but she ignored me. When I confronted him, he repeated that she was “just a friend.”
Later, I discovered he had been constantly calling and texting her even after their supposed breakup, manipulating both of us. She believed him again, and they even spent time together. One day, when I called him, she picked up the phone. After some drama, he chose her over me. Also, back when his family issues were still ongoing, I had once asked if we could plan a small ceremony after things settled since my family was waiting.
He snapped at me, saying I was being selfish for thinking only about myself. After that, I never brought it up again, even though I was under pressure from my family and couldn’t explain the chaos happening on his side. I later learned that in May, he went on a trip with that same girl. He lied to me, saying it was a group trip with friends, but she told me it was just the two of them.
I was totally honest, loyal, and gave everything in this relationship. Still, he called me selfish, a psycho, and worse. I’m now suffering from panic attacks. When I asked him, “Why me?” he replied, “It wasn’t intentional. I just wanted to settle things without hurting you.” He even blamed me for “digging up the past” but I only started asking questions after he lied.
I never doubted his friendships. I have male friends too, but I’ve always kept those boundaries clear. He messed everything up and left me in the end. I still can’t understand what my fault was in all of this.
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