I am 33 years male and have been in the USA for over a decade. I came from a middle class family. During my bachelor’s and master’s, I liked a few girls but never expressed my feelings because I was scared. Each time, they ended up marrying someone else. After my first semester of my master’s, my family faced financial issues, so I started working multiple jobs and focused only on money.
Over time, earning money became an obsession. I cleared my parents’ debts, paid my loans, got a good job, secured my H1B, and by 29 I had paid off everything and bought a house for my family in India. I got married at 29 through an arranged marriage. My wife is patient and has always stood by me. We have a baby girl who is now 1.5 years old. My wife spends most of her time with our child, and I feel like I do not get enough attention from her.
Whenever I try to spend time with her, I end up helping with baby chores. Between work and home responsibilities, I feel emotionally neglected and have become very attached to my wife. Lately, I feel jealous of the attention my child gets from my wife, and sometimes I even think about sending my child to India so I can spend time with my wife. I know these thoughts are not right, but I do not know how to stop feeling this way.
Recently, a woman from my neighbourhood started talking to me and listening to me, which has created confusion in my mind. I want to understand if being this clingy and over attached to my wife is normal or unhealthy, and how I can get out of this mess before it causes damage.
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