My girlfriend and I were in a serious relationship. At the beginning, we discussed everything how we would never leave each other, even during tough times. We promised to forgive each other’s mistakes, unless it involved a third person. She had a dark past 4 exes, but nothing physical and always told me she had been used. I made every effort: gifts, letters, emotional support. I told her I wasn’t like her past.
I promised to stay, even if she hurt me. I said we shouldn’t replace people, we should help them grow, change their flaws, and never give up. She appreciated this and felt the same. It was like, “Break me a thousand times, but fix it every time.” Later, when we went long distance, fights started over small things. I’m an overthinker, and I had trust issues. I used to ask about her day and try to communicate my overthinking.
In the beginning, she shared everything in detail but over time, she changed. My love and efforts stayed the same. I wasn’t materialistic, and neither was she. But how could someone who was once so strong and committed just give up like this? Yes, I hurt her sometimes, and she hurt me too. We had physical intimacy, but both of us are still virgins. She always wanted me to stay the same as I was in the beginning, so I did.
Despite the fights and arguments, my love never changed. I still feel there’s another reason behind the breakup. A part of me keeps asking, “Where did I go wrong?” Isn’t it normal to make mistakes in a relationship as long as there’s no third person? She still has access to my Instagram; I can see she logs in sometimes. What does that mean? She broke up with me without giving a strong reason.
There’s no third person involved. It may sound like nothing here, but I can’t explain the vibe and seriousness we once had. She used to say, “No one else will come into my life after you,” and I believed her. Then why did she leave? She never blocked me completely. She sees my messages, sometimes replies, but never appreciates anything even when I begged her to explain why she’s doing this.
She told me I broke her completely. Did I? Aren’t hurt and misunderstanding a part of love? Is she wrong for walking away? I cried the whole time. My mental health is destroyed. I had no emotional support. We used to manifest our lives together future dreams, everything. Even when she sex life, reassured me, her words faded over time. Is love just a scam in this generation?
She used to say she was an “old school lover,” who loved through eye contact, one man woman type, less physical touch. I never let that die I gave her everything she needed before she even asked. She once told me, “Now that you’ve touched me, you’re not allowed to leave.” I never left. She did.
All I want to say is:
• “Never fall in love in this generation.”
• “Never get too attached to someone.”
• “Never trust someone completely.”
• “Everything is temporary.”
Question: Who is wrong here?
Option 1: Me for always trying to fix things
Option 2: Her for faking promises
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