A long story. Kindly read and help me out, guys. I moved to another state for job purposes 2 years ago. I met this guy who works in the same hospital as me. He was a gentleman for sure, with no ex. Apparently, he fell for me first. I thought it was just infatuation because I knew from the beginning that he wasn’t from the same caste. In my state, caste doesn’t matter, but in his state and culture, caste plays a major role.
He kept saying “I like you.” Then, in 2023, I thought of resigning and returning to my hometown. But he cried and begged me to come back (I had already resigned and gone to my own city). So, I came back just for him. On December 5th, 2023, we got into a relationship. Trust me, guys, he was the one I always wanted. Matlab, main jo chahti thi, woh sab mere samne laake rakh deta tha. (I’m not talking about expensive gifts it could be flowers, chocolates, etc.)
I asked him around 200 to 250 times: “Your family has caste issues. If they don’t approve of our relationship, what will you do? Because I can’t leave you. You’re part of my daily routine.” He always replied, “Even for me, it’s the same. I can’t even dream about another woman in my life. I always dream that you and I are going to get married soon.” He told his family about us, and his father said he would be coming to the city we live in for work and would talk to me.
I was a little happy that at least his father wanted to speak with me. I also spoke to my family about him. Everything was going well. Just 10 days ago, he celebrated my birthday gave me a surprise and all the happiness I truly wanted. I used to go to many temples with him and always prayed, “God, please make him mine forever,” because I couldn’t bear the thought of him with another girl never, ever. I even fasted for him during Shivaratri.
Guys, can you believe it? I was so sure about us that I told my closest friends that we’re going to get married. And in front of everyone, he would say, “Yes, we’ll marry. We’re meant to be.” Then came the main part. His brother, who lives in London, had come back to their hometown. He had to go there for 7 days. After he left, he continued to talk to me as usual. Then, on June 5th, he told me his phone got hacked.
I kept thinking how can iPhones even get hacked? But okay, I trusted him, because everyone on his Instagram and WhatsApp got the same hacker messages. I called him, but his number wasn’t reachable the entire day. On June 6th morning, he finally called and said, “I miss you. My phone got hacked and is now with cybercrime. I’ll call you first thing when I get it back.” After that no contact for three days.
Then, just yesterday, I got to know from my colleague that he got engaged. And he got a new SIM card too. And guess what, guys? The day he got engaged was Bhima Ekadashi, and I was fasting for him praying for his good health because he had been a little unwell. Today, he called my colleague and said he’s coming back tomorrow and will talk to me face to face. But he can’t face me alone, so he’s asking my colleague to come with him when we talk.
I’m clueless. I’m crying like hell. I’m getting panic attacks. My hands and legs are shaking. I can’t sleep. I’m not feeling hungry anymore. I can’t work properly. The worst part is I have to see him every day. We work in the same place. How do I move on when I’ll have to face him daily? He was with me during lunch, dinner, hangouts, shopping, movies… I can’t imagine my life without him even now.
Why did he do this to me? Now he says he did it due to family pressure. So what about me? What about the love, the care, the devotion I gave him? I can’t live like this anymore. I’m genuinely asking for help. Wo chhod ke nahi gaya, tod ke gaya mujhe poore tareeke se..
Question: What should I do now?
Option 1: Try to move on
Option 2: Trust him that he got engaged due to family pressure
Option 3: Try to break his engagement
Option 4: Wait for him to come back to me
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