My Husband Never Touched Me in a Year of Marriage

I’m from South India, and like many traditional families, mine arranged my marriage after a single meeting. Within days, we were engaged. I barely got the chance to talk to my husband before the engagement, and I assumed he was just quiet like me. But even after our engagement, the red flags started waving. He only called 2 to 3 times a week, always around 1 PM, never in the evenings or nights. Calls lasted just 5 to 10 minutes and were always shallow. I tried calling him outside that schedule, but he’d ignore my calls or give ridiculous excuses like “I’m not feeling well.”

He never once came alone to see me only when there was wedding shopping with his family. He’s a classic mama’s boy. I thought it would get better after marriage, but I couldn’t have been more wrong. It’s been over a year, and nothing has changed. We stayed with his parents, and the only conversations we had were about tea or food. He never asked how I was doing, never showed interest in me, and get this he’s never even touched my hand! I feel like a complete outsider in that house. Everything I said would instantly go to his mother.

His family would talk in a different language in front of me just so I couldn’t understand. It made me feel humiliated and isolated every single day. But you know what they were very interested in? My salary. Constantly asking how much I earn, asking me to pay for household expenses, and not even pretending to hide their intentions. My husband would blindly give all my money to them, and till today, he has never given me a single rupee. He hasn’t even told me how much he earns! We never went out. Never spent a single meaningful moment together. No honeymoon. No dates.

Just pure silence and indifference. And then it got worse. I started noticing that at night he’d be on his phone till midnight while I was asleep. One day, I checked his phone and saw disturbing chats, explicit messages, and private photos with other people all men. At first, I couldn’t believe it. But the deeper I looked, the clearer it got. He was chatting with random boys, asking for their details, exchanging numbers, sharing photos the works. I don’t know if he’s gay or living a double life, but everything makes sense now – the disinterest, the lies, the lack of physical touch, and the complete emotional absence.

I confronted his family, and of course, they said “He’ll change.” Classic cover up. One month later, it all started again. I am living in a nightmare. No love. No trust. No respect. Just lies, emotional abandonment, and being treated like a walking ATM. I left my home, my family, my career, only to be caged in a toxic, soul crushing marriage. I don’t know what to do anymore. Should I keep suffering in silence or walk away from this disaster before it destroys me completely?

Question: What decision should I take?

Option 1: Should I continue

Option 2: Or should I leave him