I met a guy through a matrimonial site. We liked each other and started dating. We dated for about 6 months, and our families were even talking about marriage. But out of nowhere, his family called one day and said they didn’t want to move forward because our kundalis didn’t match. I was devastated. For 6 months, we had been imagining our future together, and just a day before that call, he came to meet me and said we were going to finalize the marriage soon.
Even after that, we stayed in touch, speaking once a month or so. He told me he would convince his family. I really liked him, so I waited and rejected all the potential matches my family found for me. Six months later, he came back saying he had convinced his family and that they were ready now. I was happy, but during those six months, he had met with other potential matches. He told me he only met them to reject them, so his family could understand that he loved me.
At that point, I wasn’t confident anymore. If he really wanted to be with me, why did he even meet other girls? But I let it go because I loved him. Our marriage was fixed, but after that, we started fighting a lot mostly due to family issues. After every fight, I would go back to him, thinking he was more important than the argument. But during these fights, he started disrespecting my parents. Initially, I told him I didn’t like him disrespecting my family, that it hurt me, and asked him not to do it again. He would say, “I didn’t mean to disrespect them, you’re just making a big deal out of it.”
I forgave him at first, thinking he said it in the heat of the moment and didn’t really mean it, as he was stressed and irritated. But it happened two or three more times. Every time he disrespected my parents, I forgave him. Then, one day, we had a really heated argument, and he said horrible things about my mother. This time, I couldn’t forgive him. I told him we should stop here because I couldn’t take it anymore.
But deep down, I didn’t want to end things. I just wanted him to realize his mistake and apologize because I was really hurt. Instead of apologizing, he was okay with ending our engagement and said, “You’re not happy with me. You have this image of an ideal partner, and that’s the type of guy you want. You’re not happy with my behavior, so I’m sacrificing my love for you and letting you go.”
I just wanted him to admit he was wrong and try to fix things, but he never did. Every time we fought, I was the one who went back to him, but this time, I wanted him to come back to me. He never did. He never apologized. Now, I’m left wondering was I wrong? Did he ever really love me? I still miss him, but I can’t tolerate any disrespect toward my family.