I’m a 33 years old married woman sharing my story. I grew up in poverty, and my father was very abusive. I live in a tier 2 city in Uttar Pradesh. My childhood was filled with witnessing my father beat and insult my mother, which was the norm for my brothers and me. I wanted to create and achieve something since I was a child. After 12th grade, I completed my education on my own without any help from my family. I currently have a decent job.
I had a love marriage and have a baby. My in-laws are quite wealthy, but my husband doesn’t contribute much financially. My salary is decent for a tier 2 city, and I manage my expenses without wasting my earnings. After marriage, I’m solely responsible for my expenses, and my husband struggles to provide even a little financial support for our baby. My in-laws don’t offer any financial assistance either.
The challenge is that my parents are now elderly and have no savings, just some land in the village and a small, old house in the city. Two years ago, they decided to build a new home but couldn’t complete it due to financial constraints. The environment at home has been tough; my brothers couldn’t get a proper education. One brother is an alcoholic and does small jobs, while the other does what he can to support my mother, mainly for her medical expenses and basic needs.
Whenever I visit my parents’ home and see it half finished, it fills me with sadness. My father refuses to sell the village land, insisting that he wants to save some property for his sons, even though they don’t respect him or my mother. Honestly, my father isn’t someone deserving of respect. He stubbornly insists on not selling the ancestral land.
It pains me to see my mother struggling for basic needs. My brother, who is also an abusive man, often creates chaos due to his drinking, but my mother never stands up to him, saying she doesn’t know what to do. After my marriage, I provided financial support of ₹3,00,000 to my family, as I had no savings before. I spent all my money on household matters.
Now, I have some savings and think about helping my parents complete their unfinished home, but I feel conflicted. In the end, my brothers will benefit from it, and my parents won’t leave any land or property for me, as they are blind to their sons (Putra Mooh).
I’m torn between leaving them in this situation or helping them financially, especially since my husband doesn’t support me. I’ve already invested ₹3,50,000 of my hard-earned money into their home. What should I do?
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