I’m a 27 years old female, happily married for one and a half years. My marriage was arranged. On the day we first spoke, we talked for 45 minutes, our opinions matched, and we decided to marry. Later on, we moved to another country, and things were good for the first two months. But issues began when he had a problem at work. He suddenly said, “Why did I even marry? You should leave me and marry someone else.”
I stayed calm, thinking he was just stressed from work and didn’t share this with anyone. We returned to India and stayed at my husband’s brother’s house. That’s when my co-sister, who was initially very friendly and talkative, told me about all the issues she had faced with the family before I arrived in a very sweet tone. But later, she began saying bad things about me accusing me of speaking badly about my husband, father-in-law, and mother-in-law.
Every time I gave clarity, the issue got resolved. Whenever I went to my mother’s house, some new issue would arise, but I stayed quiet since we were staying at their place. After 6 months, my husband got a job offer in another state. When he joined, I came to my mother’s house to spend some time with my family. During that time, my husband called me and asked me to delete an account. We got into a fight because of that.
When I asked for some time, he refused to listen. I told him to stop giving me orders, and he said he is the head of the family. I asked him, “Are you the head just because you’re earning?” That hurt his ego. Then he told me he wants a very conservative wife, someone who tells him everything: whom she’s talking to, where she’s going, etc. That same night, he told me we should separate. I didn’t agree and informed both our parents.
I’m still at my mother’s house. There have been discussions between my father-in-law and my parents over the phone. He said we should give it time and has now arranged for both families to meet next weekend. Since his family is very orthodox and my husband is becoming like them I now have doubts. Should I prepare to leave him or stay?
Question: What should I be prepared for in the meeting?
1: To leave him
2: To be with him