I’ve been married for 4 years, but we’ve been living separately for the past 3 months because I want a divorce. Here’s why:
1. On our wedding day, he argued with me at the mandap about why my sister didn’t steal his Juthi, following his sister’s advice.
2. On our first Diwali, I wanted to visit my parents for their blessings before going to his village. He got furious because he wanted to go to his village first to meet his friends before they left. He ignored me for four days after that, only talking when we were about to board a flight to Goa.
3. He frequently stopped talking to me for 3 to 4 days without any explanation whenever something offended him.
4. His Cousins and Buva severely insulted my mom when my parents requested more time to help me commute to work from his village. They began avoiding my parents and speaking ill of them.
5. Our relationship lacked emotional intimacy; it was only physical, and he only initiated it at his convenience, even at 3:00 am.
6. When my mother was in the ICU for 10 days, he showed no concern, visiting only briefly and going on a trip with friends.
7. He never validated my emotions and constantly dismissed them.
8. He made me feel like an over thinker, insisting that my observations and feelings were just my imagination and that I should be more practical.
9. Whenever I was at my mom’s place, he visited in my absence to badmouth me and reveal my secrets, trying to turn them against me so l would go back to him. Out of 5 attempts, 4 worked.
10. His family and friends started ignoring my parents as if they were the cause of our separation.
11. He slapped me five times in a row, claiming I deserved it because I started liking someone else and asked for a divorce.
12. I’m done with his negligence, gaslighting, and manipulation.