I got engaged a few months ago to someone who turned out to be a complete mumma’s boy, and I really need some advice on what to do next. His mother is extremely controlling and narcissistic. She doesn’t allow us to go on dates alone she either expects us to stay home and take care of the house while she goes out freely, or she joins us wherever we go.
She constantly interferes in everything, keeps tabs on us, and even encourages us to go out separately instead of spending time together. Her behaviour is very manipulative and disrespectful. Once, she demanded that I touch her feet and apologize just because I couldn’t make a proper sweet dish. Since then, she has also been rude to my family.
On top of that, the mother son relationship feels far too close and uncomfortable they cuddle when he feels low and even help each other adjust their clothes, which just doesn’t seem healthy or appropriate. Meanwhile, her son has his own red flags. He doesn’t earn well, has no stable job, and is financially dependent on his mother. Still, they expect me to cook, clean, work, take a loan, and even buy a flat.
They have demanded gold, a car, diamonds, and a flat from my family, while he himself can’t even buy a gold chain for our wedding. Yet, everything we purchase is supposed to be 50/50. He also pressures me for sex before marriage, suggesting I move in with him. If I refuse, he threatens to “look for other options.” He’s even asked for my best friend’s and cousins’ numbers, and when I refuse, he guilt trips me by saying I don’t trust him.
Now I’m really stuck and need some outside perspective:
1. Should I go ahead and marry him despite all these red flags?
2. Should I break off the engagement and move on?
3. Or is there any middle ground, like staying away from the in-laws?
Question: Should I marry him?
Option 1: Break it off
Option 2: Stay away from in-laws
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