Hi I’m Sathvika (26 F). I’m from a decent, above middle class family. I’m an above average looking girl. I had a relationship in my B.Tech but I ended up because of caste and some other issues. We never had any physical attachment as we always maintained our boundaries and I’m the one who always believes in “everything Needs to be done only when it has to be”.
My boyfriend was not ready for marriage as if inter religion marriage is not accepted in their family. There is a small fight happened in their house as his brother loved a girl from other caste, and here ours is an inter religion, so he don’t want to take it forward as anyway it won’t work out. It took me 3 years to come out of it. After or before this I don’t have any relationship or never dated any one.
Right now I’m in US came for masters, working in one of the top MNC’s with a decent package. After coming here, I met a guy Varun my cousin’s friend who is decent, good looking and matured enough. When I first met him, I liked him for his looks but didn’t took it too serious. He lives in another state and I live in other.
In next 2 years during my masters we just met once that too with whole group of our common friends my cousin is also one of them. After one more year, coincidentally we both moved to same place (same city) due to job change. Here in this new city, we used to meet once in a month that too if we need any help from each other but we are in touch.
He is very nice, decent, well mannered guy. The way he treats people specially girls is so good. I felt like he will be a good partner. He is very good friend of my cousin and I’m very close to my cousin, he is more like my own brother. Now my family stared looking for matches. I spoke with 2 to 3 people but don’t know why, somewhere I didn’t felt good. Later on after seeing everything around, and all these Confessions.
I’m afraid to take risk by choosing some random guy as my life partner. Recently, on one random day, Varun called me asked me about a girl who is a my school Friend. I asked him why he is asking about her, then I got to know that he got a match and he just wanted to check as he saw me as a mutual friend in one of the social media platforms. I told him my genuine experience and all the conversation went well.
But from that day, my heart feels heavy and feels like something is not going well. Later I realized, how much I like him and admire him. Because of that I’m not able to accept the fact that he started looking on other girls for Marriage. Now I’m confused what to do. Not sure how to Confess him as if I’m his friends sister so I just had a feeling that he might also treating me as a sister (never addressed me as a sister but just a thought).
If I confess my feeling and ask him for a marriage proposal, I might loose this friendship as well if he doesn’t want this to go forward also it will effect my cousins and his friendship which I don’t want to happen. But genuinely, I like him and wanted to have a marriage discussion instead of just a casual dating and all.
Note: we are from different caste. My family will accept it but not sure about this family. I’m remember him telling that it won’t be that easy to convince their parents for inter caste marriage. But he can try if he really likes a girl. Just wanted to know genuine suggestion on this. Not sure what to do now.
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