His family found my profile on a matrimony site. Our families spoke, and we eventually met. The very first time we spoke, I felt very confused we were from completely different backgrounds, and it felt like we were very different people who wouldn’t be compatible. He insisted that I never leave my job, and made it mandatory for his family to stay with us even after marriage.
After our first long conversation, his family wanted an immediate decision they said, “If it’s going to be a NO, why take too much time? Just tell us immediately.” I felt very pressured and asked for at least two weeks of time, during which my family forced me to say yes so I did. When our families connected for the first time, they had discussed finances and asked if there was any debt, to which his family completely denied.
Things started going well. Our families were in regular contact. We connected on Instagram, exchanged numbers, and spoke for hours every day for three months. I was genuinely very happy we got along very well. But during this period, he often dodged questions regarding finances or how we’d manage savings. Soon, we got engaged. Just two weeks after our engagement, we found out that his family had not disclosed their financial status.
One of his relatives told us about a huge family debt. When we questioned him and his family about it, they didn’t respond at all. They had a loan of ₹55 lakhs, and their plan was that after marriage, both my fiancé and I would pay the EMI together and try to close it early since there would be two incomes. I wouldn’t have minded supporting my future partner financially but in this case, neither he nor his family informed me or my parents about the debt beforehand.
When all this came to light and we questioned them, they just stayed quiet. Then they said, “If you don’t want to take this forward, it’s completely okay with us,” and within just an hour, they blocked my entire family. I feel like an absolute idiot. I felt what we had was magical. I thought I was in love. It’s crazy how he could move on so quickly. It’s breaking my heart. I haven’t been able to concentrate at all. I keep crying.
I keep trying to stalk him on Instagram even after he and his whole family ghosted me. I still feel like he was my soulmate and that I want to marry him. I don’t know what to do.
Question: What do I do? I really need help.
1. Should I try to connect with him again?
2. What if he’s my once-in-a-lifetime soulmate?
3. Should I just move on?
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