I met someone on Instagram through an anonymous ID. Our initial conversations had a steamy tone, and over time, we started sharing more personal details. At first, I wasn’t completely honest about my where abouts mainly due to past insecurities and not being serious about the connection initially. We continued talking, often engaging in intimate conversations, and stayed in touch regularly.
Eventually, she expressed that she felt I didn’t truly care about her. That’s when I opened up about my past and the emotional baggage I carried. She responded with kindness, assuring me that I could trust her, that she would be there for me, and that I didn’t need to worry. Her words encouraged me to give the connection a real chance.
I decided to come clean about my true identity, as I didn’t want to build a relationship on false pretenses. She responded positively, and we spent hours talking that day, opening up to each other. However, in the days that followed, I noticed a shift in her behavior. Concerned, I asked if she wanted to step back or just go back to being casual friends.
She scolded me for suggesting it, insisting that she would always be there for me, and that no one else would come after me in her life. I took her words to heart and continued to invest in the relationship emotionally. Later, she confessed that there was something she hadn’t told me something she felt I deserved to know before we got serious. She revealed that she had been sexually assaulted, and shortly after disclosing this.
She deactivated her ID mid conversation, saying she couldn’t continue. I was deeply affected and reached out to her for 10 days straight. When she finally responded, she asked why I waited. I told her I couldn’t just walk away, especially when she was in pain. We resumed communication, though it wasn’t easy. There were arguments, and she frequently brought up her trauma.
I did my best to stay by her side, believing her behavior stemmed from her past experiences. Despite my own emotional struggles, I tried to be a source of strength for her. Eventually, she shared more details telling me her previous boyfriend, the son of a local politician, had assaulted her. I hoped that now, with everything on the table, we could move forward with greater honesty.
We even spoke about the future family, marriage, children. Yet, her behavior remained inconsistent. I expressed how much it was affecting me emotionally. Her response was to suggest I walk away, saying I deserved better and that she was not a good person. I continued to reassure and support her, even though I was reaching my emotional limit.
One day, after another intense conversation, I told her in frustration to do whatever she wanted. She deactivated her ID again, leaving behind a message claiming it had all been a fake identity. I initially thought this was said in anger. But later, I discovered her real Instagram ID. To my shock, much of what she had told me about her job, location, and other details was false.
When I tried contacting her through her real account, she blocked me without any explanation. Recently, I came across some disturbing information morphed images of her were being circulated on adult websites. I don’t know if she is a victim in this situation or if something else is at play. Regardless, I attempted to contact her multiple times to understand what had truly happened, but she never responded.
Now, I’m left with unanswered questions. I never intended to be in a serious relationship, it was something she pushed for. Yet, she kept lying and ultimately vanished, leaving behind a trail of emotional confusion and hurt. I don’t want revenge or drama. I just wish I could understand what it was all about, because what I gave was real.
Question: What Should I Do Next?
Option 1: Let it go completely – Focus on healing
Option 2: Seek closure Try one last time to reach out