Back in 2013 to 2014, I was in 9th standard. I had a huge crush on a girl and proposed to her but she said no because she was already in a relationship. Still, we became casual friends since she was close to my female classmate and my sister. She would visit our home during festivals, and we stayed in touch because we lived nearby. Two years later, I moved away and lost all contact with her. At that time, my family’s financial condition hit rock bottom, so I shifted my entire focus to helping them survive.
Nine years flew by. I met many girls in that time some became friends, some betrayed me, some just ghosted. I even had a serious crush on another friend, proposed to her, only to find out she was dating my own college buddy. Once again, heartbreak. I moved on. Then in 2022, life hit me hard I was diagnosed with cancer. In 2024, I underwent ACL surgery. I was broken physically, emotionally, and financially. And just when I thought things couldn’t get worse, in September 2024 after nine long years I stumbled upon my childhood crush’s Instagram through a friend’s profile.
I had been searching for her for the last two years, and finally, I found her. I messaged her she instantly replied. We started talking, met up, and for the first time in years, I felt alive again. She told me everything about her 12 years relationship how the guy dumped her because his mom disapproved. I could see the pain in her eyes. I felt so connected. She later proposed to me not once, but twice. But I wasn’t ready. I was still trying to heal, still holding on to someone I had loved for four years, and I was broke. I didn’t want to promise something I couldn’t give.
Then came my birthday in November we had a fight. Ironically, it was about the friend I once had feelings for. She was hurt, and when I saw her expression, I broke down. I cried like a child alone on the terrace, and even on call with her. For the first time ever, I cried for a girl. By December, I had made up my mind. I wanted to be with her. But before proposing, I wanted to sort out my family’s problems. I didn’t want to drag her into my mess. I promised myself: Only when I can keep my word, will I make her mine.
Then on December 15, my mom fell sick. I admitted her to the hospital on December 21. In the middle of all this chaos, another guy her so called friend who had been proposing to her re entered her life. She told me about it and asked for my opinion. I was confused, stressed, and told her, “See for yourself if he’s right for you. Don’t rush.” On December 30, that guy rode three hours just to meet her. She asked me what to do. I said, “He came all the way. Meet him if you want.”
And then boom she sent me pictures of them together. I was shattered. The next day, I begged her to wait. I cried, pleaded with her not to rush things. She didn’t listen. Within four days, she told her mom about him. Families got involved. Within 20 days, she was off to meet his mother. I was devastated. I cried on her shoulder, held her tight, begged her not to leave. I told her, “I can’t live without you.” And what did she say?
“My love is incomplete without you. I will be yours till my last breath.” Then why the hell won’t she stand for me? If she really loved me, she would’ve fought for me like I was ready to fight the entire world for her. She says she’s helpless now because everyone knows. Because her family’s reputation will be “ruined” if she backs out now. What about me? What about us? She is my everything. Love you, Mauu. Always.
Question: Friends, please tell me-should I just let her go, or should I stop her marriage and fight for her?
Option 1: Let her go
Option 2: Stop marriage anyhow