I am 32 and she is 25. She is my colleague. In fact, I was senior to her, so I mentored her and supported her in every aspect of life. Initially, I was not looking at her as my partner as she was 8 years younger than me, but we came closer as we used to discuss our daily activities, and I used to resolve all her problems. For me, she was my top priority. She also told me that age is only a number and she would talk to her parents for us.
I was about to meet her father in January. But things turned around when I had a seizure attack in front of her. I had a history of seizures, but the last time was 4 years ago. I had given her a general idea that I had depression and anxiety attacks after my mom’s death, but she didn’t get into the details. I used to take medicine, and I had taken it multiple times in front of her too.
She had asked me why I was taking that medicine, and I told her it was for depression. Since there hadn’t been a seizure for the last 3-4 years, we never got into the depth of it. But now she has discussed with her father, and her father has rejected the proposal. She has also broken up with me as she cannot go against her father. From a perfect groom, I have become a man with a health issue that no one wants to marry.
I have given 200% to the relationship, but now, when I was depressed to know about my health concern after 4 years and was looking for support from my partner, she left me. I tried gradually to maintain cordial relations and let destiny work things out, but now she wants to move on. She unfollowed me on all social media and blocked me on WhatsApp. I don’t know where I went wrong.
I never intended to hide anything, but since it was 4 years ago, no one thought to go into the depth of it. I am in depression as I am very emotional, and it’s hurting to know that the one I did so much for, the one I considered above myself, has blocked me as if I was toxic or did something wrong to her. After diagnosis, the doctor told me that the seizure was due to a reaction to a medicine I took for hair fall.
Moreover, I am driving, going to the office, and even going on solo trips without any problem. The only advice the doctor has given me is to take a single medicine for 2-3 years and get complete sleep.
Question: Am I wrong? Do I need to explain everything in depth to her?
Option 1: Yes, it’s her life decision
Option 2: It does not matter
Option 3: Others, please elaborate
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