I got into a relationship when she approached me back in April 2023. We dated, and I felt like I had found exactly the kind of girl I had always dreamed of. In terms of looks, she is above average but not very career oriented. I’m a decent looking guy, 6 feet tall, and I was approached by several girls during my college years. Currently, I’m preparing for the UPSC after leaving my corporate job (and I’m doing well in that).
A few months into the relationship, I moved to another city. After eight months of being together, I decided to visit her in November 2023. One day, when she wasn’t around, I accessed her Gmail account and found that she had created an Instagram account right after I told her I was coming to visit. She had saved screenshots of chats and photos of a guy she had interacted with 2 to 3 years ago.
She even saved his photo again when he approached her about a month before we met. She took a screenshot of it. Reading those chats really hurt me. She seemed obsessed with that person. I did everything for her. For me, nothing is more important than trust and loyalty even though she had gained weight and wasn’t focused on her career, I stayed fully committed.
When I confronted her, she cried a lot. I know her family well she introduced me to everyone, and they’ve always been good to me. Now it’s 2025, and I still struggle with what she did. If she liked someone so deeply, why did she approach me in the first place?
I asked her this question, and she always cries a lot. I can see that she feels deeply guilty. She’s not a bad person I know that. She has always cared for me, even in small things, from the very beginning. But this still haunts me: why did she hide it? I keep questioning it over and over. Seeing the effort and care she puts into the relationship now, I stay silent. It’s been two years since all this happened.
But when it comes to thinking about marriage, I hesitate. Should I continue this? She was not physically involved with that person it was just an emotional attachment. And honestly, that guy isn’t even capable of writing basic English. He’s not even 10% of the person I am. So why? That “why” is killing me inside. I’m a virgin; I’ve never had a past relationship or been physically involved with anyone.
Even with this girl, we promised to wait until marriage. She is an innocent girl with a very simple nature everything seems perfect in her but this one thing haunts me. Whenever I used to take her phone, she would become very conscious. I’m not very experienced in relationships like this, so I don’t know what to do. Should I consider therapy? Should I let her go? But I feel very empty without her.
She’s making a lot of effort now. Is this considered cheating? Betrayal? Or something else? Please help me. I need serious advice.
Question: Should I forgive her?
Option 1: Yes
Option 2: No
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