I am a normal middle class guy. I was in a hostel with co-education while in class 12 and was well known in the hostel for my talents and activities. She was my junior and fell in love with me, which was brought to my attention by her classmates. At first, I doubted it, thinking it was a joke, but after some time and observations, I realized it was true. I think I made a mistake by asking her directly about it. She admitted her feelings, and I, being practical, told her that I would only continue the relationship if we were serious about marriage, otherwise I didn’t want to get involved.
She agreed, saying we would marry, and I was happy, thinking I had found my true love. That year went well, and I promised her that we wouldn’t have any physical intimacy until we got married. She agreed, and everything was going smoothly. I graduated and left the college that year. After that, we continued our long-distance relationship. I was studying engineering in a different place, and we stayed connected through calls, which worked well for the second and third years of our relationship.
However, during the fourth year, when she returned to her hometown for engineering, things started to change. She told me she was no longer interested in marriage and didn’t believe in it. She suggested that we could be in a live-in relationship for the rest of our lives. This sudden change shocked me, and I tried to explain my perspective and convince her, but she didn’t accept it. I tried for 3 to 4 months, but she kept insisting that I accept her views.
I was concerned about my family and future, as I come from a middle class background. I realized that if I stayed in the relationship, I would become more attached to her, and if she didn’t change her views on marriage, I would struggle to move on. I felt it was better to end things now so that she could live the lifestyle she wanted.
She is a good person, and I have no negative feelings about her character, but I don’t understand why she suddenly changed her views on something we had agreed upon in the beginning. Even now, I am still waiting, hoping she will understand and come back, but deep down, I know this won’t happen.