Hi, I am a 23 years old female engineer by profession, working in a very well reputed organization and, with God’s grace, doing well in life. I am an introverted person who speaks less. When I was in college, I met my friend, and we have known each other for almost 5 years.
In February, it was my friend’s elder sister’s wedding, and she invited me and asked me to attend all the functions so I could help her with makeup and styling too. It was a destination wedding, and it was the first time we would be living together for a few days. Earlier, we used to only meet in college or visit cafes and malls for a few hours.
I specially traveled from one city to another to attend her sister’s wedding, but when I reached there and met her, she showed me very cold behavior. She just said hi and then went to another room. I was sitting there alone. After half an hour, she came with her parents into the room where I was sitting. I stood up and touched their feet. They just gave a very pale smile.
I gave them the gift, which was a silver anklet that I bought for her sister as a wedding gift. They took the gift and then went outside. Then my friend asked me to do her makeup. I dolled her up, and after that, I started getting ready. But I was feeling very bad because of the cold behavior they showed. They didn’t even talk to me just a pale smile.
They didn’t even offer me a glass of water, especially knowing I had come from another city and was tired from traveling. After that, the mehndi function started, and dinner was being served. But my friend and her parents didn’t even ask me to eat or have something. They were busy asking and serving other people to have food, but they didn’t even mention it to me once.
Her mother asked several people who were sitting beside me to come and have dinner, but she ignored me as if I was non existent. I am a very introverted person, and I felt very shy to start eating without being asked. I skipped dinner. I went to the room, and in my bag, I had some biscuits and chips. I ate that and slept.
The next day was the haldi, and the same thing repeated. My friend would come to me only to get herself ready, but at other times she ignored me and made me feel left out. At night, it was the wedding. I did my friend’s makeup and was getting ready, but deep down I was deeply hurt and very upset. I know during wedding functions everyone is busy.
But when you are talking to everyone, spending time with everyone, calling everyone to have dinner but ignoring me, making me feel left out it made me so vulnerable that I could not control my feelings. I wore a light pink saree that day, and when I came out of the room, my friend’s Bhabhi asked me in a very rude manner, “Is this the only color left in the whole world that you chose to wear?”
I felt awkward and asked her what happened. Then she immediately called my friend and her mother. My friend started shouting at me, saying, “My sister (the bride) is wearing the same color and you also chose to wear the same color. Don’t you have some basic manners? You are overshadowing my sister. Already she is very conscious about her looks and was worried whether she would look good on her wedding day.
If she sees you, she will feel upset and get an inferiority complex. We all already decided that no one will wear any shade of pink just to make her feel good and confident. Just go and change your dress.” Then her mother stared at me in such a bad way and said, “You just want to become a model in front of everyone so that everyone notices you,” and she left.
I went to my room. I couldn’t control my emotions. I started crying and changed my attire and wore a suit. I attended the wedding with a very heavy heart and then I packed my bags and left. While traveling back to my city, I was so depressed and felt so humiliated that I cursed myself for attending the wedding.
It has been a month, but my heart is still very heavy and upset. I just can’t accept whatever happened. I feel so humiliated and disrespected. My friend didn’t even message me once after the wedding.
My Questions:
1. Why are people so cold hearted and evil that they can humiliate you in front of everyone?
2. Is it justified to invite someone to your home and then ignore, disrespect, and make them feel left out?
Problem: What can I do to overcome this incident?
Option 1: Time will heal
Option 2: I should do something to recover fast
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