I am an above average looking girl with a loving and decent family, which includes my parents, brother (28), and his wife (26), who have been married for 2 years. My parents are looking for a match for me, and even I am fully ready to settle down with marriage. I have lived a happy life until this moment.
I met 4 matches till now, out of which we rejected 1 due to other reasons, and I rejected 2 good matches due to one specific reason them admiring my SIL (sister-in-law) a bit more than I could accept. Earlier, I never felt jealous or insecure around her, as she always loved me like a child, and we have been like besties.
She is an extremely beautiful woman with a fair complexion and a slim but fuller/plump body as good as an actress and a little thinner than Tamannaah Bhatia & resembles her slightly. When these 3 matches visited our home to see me (as a female, we can always identify stares), I observed them staring and admiring her beauty a little too much.
I felt extremely disgusted, although I am aware that she has always been stared at and complimented for her looks which is even why we chose her for my brother. But the 2 matches admired her as if, after marriage, they were more happy to be associated with an apsara/hoor like her than with me. I rejected them. I saw a little lust or crush in their eyes.
But my 4th match, whom I like, was not like this. He was minimal with stares on the day of our first meeting, but he is extremely sweet and jolly by nature meaning he is always engaged in fun conversations with everyone. I really like him, but I am afraid that after marriage, he will end up having a bond with my SIL, as she is almost the same age as him, and both are extremely good looking.
I am afraid what if they both end up having a secret relationship like we see in serials or stories, and I never even come to know? Even if not a physical relationship, what if he admires her after marriage because he is a male and is naturally attracted to a beautiful woman? I can’t even tolerate him talking happily with her. It makes me stressed and anxious unnecessarily, even if she is just offering him water.
I am in a serious dilemma. What should I do and how do I overcome this lifetime fear? Because I really want to marry him and if not him, the other one might be the same. I can’t live away from my parents.
Question: Please suggest what should I do?
1: Reject him and go for another average looking male
2: Stop overthinking about scenarios and marry him
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