We have known each other for 1.5 years and have been in a committed relationship for the last 5 months. Everything was going well. Sometimes during conversations, he used to brag that because he was in love with me, he tried to ignore girls in his college. He even deleted group photos from his phone that included girls and told me I should do the same. He presented himself as modest and claimed he had never been in a relationship before that I was his first love.
I never told him not to talk to girls, but he used to brag that he didn’t talk to girls nor wanted to. Then one day, I checked his Facebook and found that he had sent friend requests to multiple women and even searched for them by name, some multiple times. I also caught a 2 years old chat with his ex there. It seemed like he had deleted chats with other girls. The next day, I confronted him with all this. He said he sent friend requests to the girls because they appeared in his suggestions and that he had no wrong intentions even though he had searched for girls by name.
He said he could have sent them messages but didn’t, and that it was just friend requests. But I feel like he deleted the text messages. Then he played the victim card, saying he did all this because I was ignoring him. But I don’t think I was ignoring him everything seemed perfectly fine. I don’t know why he made that up. When I said I would also do the same, he said he loved that I don’t talk to boys and that I shouldn’t do that. Later, I found a contact of a girl he had been messaging a lot. I couldn’t see the messages because the chat was deleted.
I asked him about the girl by name. I got her name from his Facebook searches and he denied knowing her multiple times. When I showed him her number, he finally admitted he had talked to her and said she was his mentor and that nothing was wrong. He deleted her number afterward. I also checked his YouTube history and saw he searched for videos like “how to recover deleted contacts from phone.” When I asked him why he cheated on me, he said he didn’t and that I was just making it up in my head. He also watched videos on YouTube like “should you forgive your partner for cheating.”
Now he is begging me to stay, says he will change, yet still doesn’t admit he cheated. Should I stay and trust a chronic liar who presented a completely different image of himself a cheater or not?