The Story of a Betrayer: A Journey to Self Discovery
At 24, I was nervous about starting an arranged marriage with a man I barely knew. An unsettling feeling lingered, and it often felt like I was the only one putting effort into this unromantic relationship. A month before the wedding, he didn’t speak with me. When I pressured him and asked what the matter was, he made a hurtful comment: “Don’t insult me with your looks in front of my girlfriends.”
I was shocked, but I dismissed it as just a mistake-not realizing it wasn’t just a mistake. After the wedding, he left me at my parents’ house and never came home. He was working in a different city. I decided to get a job somewhere nearby his city so that I could live with him, only to find myself isolated. I got a job, and this was my daily routine: as a working woman, I would wake early to prepare his meals.
Go to work, then return home to cook and clean after a long day-only to be pursued by him for physical needs while he remained emotionally distant. He didn’t speak to me for weeks. This disturbed me deeply, knowing this wasn’t right. It felt like two strangers living in a house. When I finally confronted him, he said, “I want dowry. Your father owes me a car and a house.” It felt like a nightmare.
I had seen this in movies, but in real life? Nah! Things worsened when he visited my family and raised his hand against my father, claiming I was mentally ill and that he didn’t want me anymore. The physical abuse began soon after, and in those dark moments, I felt trapped, even contemplating suicide under the weight of his cruelty.
Eventually, I discovered he had been cheating on me pursuing wealthier women while using me for his own gain. He was using me as a means to an end. I packed my bags and confronted him: “You don’t deserve even a second of my time. I’m leaving you.” This city was new to me-l didn’t know where to go or what my next move would be. Although fear washed over me, I found a glimmer of hope.
Each challenge was guided by God as part of my path forward. Now, happily divorced, I look back with gratitude. I’ve been blessed-traveling to many countries, pursuing my passions, and discovering my worth. I finally understood he was the source of my negativity.
To all women: Trust your instincts. Your intuition is powerful. Embrace your strength and remember that brighter days lie ahead. Your journey to self-discovery can lead to a life filled with hope and joy. But I still ask myself: Should I have given him a chance?
Question: I have given him a chance?
1: Did I take the right decision?
2: Should I have given him a chance?
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