I was in a relationship with this guy. I wasn’t interested in him at first, but he somehow convinced me with his small gestures. He said, “We are from different states, but I will keep you as my priority in the future for marriage because I really love you.” After two months, he convinced me to have sex. I had been refusing from the start, but he used emotional manipulation, and although I wasn’t ready, I eventually agreed because he said he wanted 100% commitment, or else he would leave. I didn’t want to lose him.
He didn’t even let me go out with my friends, especially male friends, and he used to say things to my friends about my immaturity when we fought. Slowly, he separated me from them. He did all the things I asked him not to like talking to random girls whose intentions were not innocent towards him. When I confronted him, he said I was immature and didn’t understand him. Meanwhile, I wasn’t even allowed to go out with my friends. I told him, “Tell that girl about our relationship and then talk to her as much as you want.”
But he ignored me. He always had time for his friends, but when I asked, he made excuses. He never answered my calls when he was out. Because of all this, I wanted answers, but he never gave any. He ignored me, got frustrated with my questions, and broke up with me. I begged him to make the relationship work for many days, but he didn’t want to continue due to time and family issues and just consoled me as a friend. After 20 days, he started talking to me normally, and we went out. We had sex again.
I thought maybe he would understand my loyalty and love because I was keeping him happy without expecting a relationship. And this continued. He ghosted me 15 days ago, and our workplaces have also changed though it’s only an hour away. Later, he texted me saying he couldn’t talk because he was busy. I came home, but he’s talking to my best friend. He knows my best friend tells me everything. He told me, “You must have found new people, so you enjoy.
I’m very stressed. You’re just like my ex,” and other hurtful things when I asked him about ghosting me and talking to my friend. I told him, “I’m always there for you, but you’re pushing me away by making excuses not to talk. I care for you just like before.” I asked him to call, but he didn’t respond. My mental health is really bad. I don’t know what to do. But I love this man too much. I can’t imagine my life without him.