I am 28 years female working in IT, and I had a fear of marriage because of the stories that are happening nowadays. But my parents told me to just give it a try and made my account on a matrimony site. After a few days, my father found a guy on the matrimony site good looking, 32 years old, his house is near mine, but he’s earning a bit less than me. The guy seemed good looking in his photo. My mother was also happy seeing him. Money was not a matter at that time because we knew that once he switched companies, he would definitely increase his salary.
So my mother insisted I have a chat with him. Just to give it a try, I started talking to him on FB. While talking to him, I found out that he was a very nice and fun loving guy, very sweet, and respected me. After talking to him, I could forget my fear of marriage. He accepted me as I am. Slowly, he started appreciating my looks, which I always thought weren’t that good. I started falling in love with myself after talking to him. He appreciated me just the way I am. I also started liking him, as he has one of the most beautiful faces I’ve ever seen.
After one month, our families decided to meet. Before our families met, he insisted we meet one day. There I found out that he is a bit shorter than me in height. So I thought our families would not accept it. But by that time, I had already gotten emotionally attached to him. The day before our families met, I warned him that maybe it’s possible our families won’t accept. At that moment, we both got emotional, but nevertheless, we decided to leave it to them.
The day came when our families met. The moment my mother saw him, she was very surprised. Because if I start describing him he is definitely good looking, much better than his photo but the thing is, he is very lean and a bit shorter than me. He appears to be younger than 25, even though he is 32. I am a tall girl and definitely look older than my age and am hefty. His family had no problem with this, but my family told me that he is no match for me neither physically nor in terms of money. They are saying that people will laugh at us when they see us together.
However, my father likes him very much. I too don’t have any problem with his physique. But one thing that concerns me is that he is reluctant about growth in his career. He is content with whatever he has. But I am very ambitious. To be very honest, I think a person needs to be ambitious. If my partner is not ambitious, then I may be unhappy. I want to reach my highest potential. He is supportive, but I also want him to grow with me. I don’t have greed for money, but I think money can buy happiness. If there is no money, then we will have to compromise.
Ek bar hi toh jeene ko mila hai, dreams pe compromise karke kya milega. But the thought of finding another guy is haunting me again. I keep thinking: what if I don’t get a supportive and good soul like him? What if I get tortured or beaten up? What if the family is not supportive? My mother says, “You will definitely get a nice guy if you search again. Your life will get spoiled if you live with this unambitious person.” On the other hand, my father says, “He is in love with you and respects you.
Don’t run behind money. Money will come and go. You won’t get a guy like him. Now it’s your choice.” I am really confused. The thought of leaving him brings tears to my eyes. My mother is acting like my brain, and my father is acting like my heart. I don’t understand what to do. I am simply confused. I am getting depressed day by day, thinking whether I am making the right decision or not. Please guide me on this matter.