I am Preeti and my husbands name is Nihaar, he did masters in USA and a fulltime employee for a major retails chain, IT job. I got married in 2016, It was as an arranged marriage, before marriage I don’t know anything about him, it was a casual 3 times meet, their parents were nice and they did not ask any dowry and my parents really liked them, at that time my husband used to be shy and talk less, I was a foodie and was working in MNC in Gachibowli, I used to have lot of female friends and life was full fun, movies, office parties.
It took 8 to 9 months for me to move to US because of some passport issues. Our first night was in India, as it used to be so shy to have because many relatives were around before the first night ceremony, so during first night it was only talk and nothing happened and it’s understandable. Now comes the real thing, once I move to US, we shifted to a new apartment and he used to take me to new places and restaurants, and no romance was initiated by him even after 6 months.
Slowly I came to know he has smoking habit like he used to have 2 to 3 cigarettes everyday, and he never introduced to his friends. The starting happy settling phase of relationship was over. My parents were asking how are things going and is he nice and all, my parents were broke financially from my 4th standard, they were humble human beings, only happiness for them is I look pretty and can get me married without dowry, and since there was no dowry, my parents were very happy and I have 3 to 4 years salary saved from the work I did in India.
Coming to the point, once one of his friends came to visit him, they went out and my husband was totally drunk, then that friend dropped him home and left. Things were so boring and even after 1 year we did not have sex neither he kissed me or anything. I don’t have any pat relationships, then one day after he left to work, I found some documents and came to know he is impotent and was broken, he knew it way before marriage, then I called his friend and asked him, I was crying and he had no choice and told that my husband was in a relationship in his college time and had girlfriend and living in relationship,
My husband has a smoking addiction and because of that reason he has no chance for kids and permanent ED and his ex left him. Now I am still living with him and my parents still don’t know about all this, I also work for on EAD, we earn and do nothing, he regrets a lot and cannot even look into my eyes, all he says is Sorry when I cry, he never visits India, because everyone asks about kids
I am not revenge taking person nor want to shame him or his family, it’s been 8 years I am lonely just making money and living for society, all I want to say is Smoking kills sex life and for the girls/boys who are fond of kids, please moderate your bad habits. Once you are in life 35 years to 38 years, you will be lonely with lot of money, it’s worst than being in jail.
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