I’m a 26 year old male. I dated a girl for about 2 years, out of which she was chasing her ex for a whole year. When I found out, she kept apologizing and trying to convince me that she had changed. This started when she and I had a fling. I made her realize she was in a toxic relationship, so she broke up with her boyfriend. We were just having a fling back then.
Little did I know she was back with her ex and enjoying her time there, while also pretending to be falling for me. Things got bad with her ex as he figured out she was double dating, and my girlfriend started ignoring him. One outing, when she was drunk, she started crying and abusing me, saying her ex was better, that I was a chutiya, and that she had a good thing with him.
Later, when she sobered up, she proposed to me and said she wanted to be in a serious relationship. I’ve been loyal to her since then. Everything was fine until one time when her ex called her three times while she was with me. She told me she wasn’t going to contact him, but she did. She messaged him. Later, I realized she had been stalking him for more than a year after their breakup.
In the initial days of us being together, she even tried to get back with him, apologizing and saying she hadn’t done anything with me or any other guy and had stayed loyal to him. She used to call and text him and tried to communicate every now and then. When I found out, she explained that during the early days of our relationship.
She missed how kind and fun her ex was both physically and materially and felt confused about getting back with him. But since he didn’t reciprocate, she stayed with me. For the rest of our relationship, I was always shamed for my past, where I had casual relationships. I was taken for granted, lied to, and manipulated. Every fight, she brought up my past and bragged about how she left her ex for me.
She constantly questioned my character whenever I warned her about other guys trying to get close to her. She didn’t cheat on me with another guy, but she definitely harbored feelings for her ex while acting like she was madly in love with me talking about marriage and our future together.
Now I know what she was up to. She had those feelings for her ex all along, and when he reached out, she couldn’t control herself. Although nothing happened between them after that call, it was enough for me to lose feelings for her. Now she acts completely loyal, always trying to come back to me no matter how hard I push her away. One thing I can say is she’s not messing around this time.
I even confronted her ex and told him about her two timing saga she didn’t oppose it. She’s been chasing me for the past year, doing everything I say, like a puppet. I’m really confused. I don’t want to lose her if she has truly changed. I love her so much, but I’ve lost respect for her.
Question: Should I take her back?
1: Yes
2: No
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