So, we both met through a matrimonial site and instantly connected. It was happy in the beginning phase, but slowly problems arose when his sports and game practices and tournaments restarted. He spent a lot of time on turfs and grounds and completely forgot about my existence. I made things clear to him and asked, “Please text me at least every 5 to 6 hours.” Even that was a big deal for him, but gradually he corrected it.
He is not a professional sports player or anything, he’s a techie who is interested in sports. One day, he was telling me about his friend who is texting one of his girl colleagues. The guy who’s texting is married (that too a love marriage), and his wife is pregnant. When I heard this, I told him this act is completely unacceptable. Then suddenly my fiancé said, “It’s because his wife is pregnant, na, that’s why.”
I was shocked by this response from him. How can someone support this? We fought, and later I forgave him. Things were smooth after that. We had our marriage fixation ceremony and everything. We went out one day, and I suddenly took his phone just to tease him. He was sitting opposite me at the table and suddenly stood up and asked me to give the phone back.
I refused (we were at a restaurant), then he sat and started telling me that this is not fair “I don’t touch your phone, na? So you should also not touch mine,” and so on. I gave it back. Later that day, we were going through the photos from the outing, and I couldn’t find some of the pictures of him that I had taken. He said he was not looking good, so he deleted them. I suddenly opened the deleted photos folder to restore them.
I was shocked by the photos I saw there. They were mostly of half naked women (bikini photos). And the scary part? They were all screenshots of Instagram stories. Even scarier those women were his classmates from school and college, and they share these pics in their boys’ group for fun. When I asked about this, he said, “It’s just a fun element, na? And all those photos are publicly shared by those women in their stories, right?
And the fun is not the kind you imagine it’s just for teasing purposes. Look, I have screenshots of our class boys too!” I couldn’t stand that especially the way he supported it. I don’t know whether boys usually do this, but as a girl, I’m not able to accept it. After a big fight, I kind of forgave him. But it’s been 15 days since that happened, and the incident is still haunting me.
Question: What to do?
Option 1: Call off the wedding and move on
Option 2: Forgive if he is good to you
Option 3: One life. Don’t suffer later
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