My story is a bit clumsy. I don’t know how it will feel to others. I’m a master’s student studying Al in London. I belong to a city in Maharashtra. I did my graduation in Pune. I used to work at a startup as a CTO in my final year. Since I worked in the startup, I was handling hiring. In April 2024, I had an interview meeting with her. We used to talk for a long time, and the conversations kept going forward. We fell in love with each other.
There was a point when she came to Pune just to meet me. After that meeting, our relationship became stronger. I was madly in love. After meeting, we decided to stay together. Her elder sister, who is married, also stays in Pune. Then we started living together in a flat. She got a job too. One night, she started telling me about her past, and that past totally shocked me. I was at my worst after hearing it.
Still, I loved her deeply because she is a good-hearted and loyal person. Her past was that she had been in a relationship with her relative for 3 years, someone 5 years older than her. That wasn’t the part that hurt me. In the first year, the relationship was fine, but for the last 2 years, that guy started blackmailing her, threatening to leak her nudes, and forced her into sex.
She was in the worst phase during those days and couldn’t tell her family. She was scared because her brother is aggressive and she thought he might kill her. Eventually, she blocked the guy from everywhere and started moving on. Then we met after she came to Pune. That guy called her again, saying he would leak her pictures and send them to her parents. I was there. I supported and backed her.
In October, I came to the UK (London), and our relationship became long distance. Everything was fine. We talked daily on video calls for hours. I was so madly in love that I couldn’t resist meeting her. I came back to India on January 24, 2025, to meet her. We were both excited. She came to Mumbai to pick me up, and we had a great vacation in Ratnagiri for 5 days. It was the best time of our lives.
Then we returned to Pune and stayed at her flat for 8 days before I went back to Latur. Before returning to London on February 12, we stayed at a lodge in Pune. We both cried a lot, wondering when we’d meet again. The next day, a friend and I, along with her, departed for Mumbai from Pune. After coming back to London, things started changing slightly. Her behavior started shifting.
She began saying I should stay a bit away from her, as her parents had started looking for a groom. I started crying daily and even attempted suicide. The thing is, she’s not ready because her family is somewhat reputed in her village in Hingoli District, and she doesn’t want to ruin their image. So, she started teaching me to stay away from her. The long calls turned into a few minutes.
Then came the villain. Her ex-boyfriend, also her relative, called her brother anonymously and told him everything, including that she had been in a sexual relationship with a lower-caste boy. Her brother took her back home, which led to her leaving her job. Everything got messed up. She’s crying daily and texts me whenever her brother is out of the house.
I’m madly in love with her. I can’t see anyone else holding her hand. I’m scared that the devil of a guy might blackmail her again. I can’t bear to see her in this situation. My parents also know about my relationship with her. I just want suggestions:
A. Should I call her brother and tell him everything about the relative guy who made things worse?
B. Or should I go to her parents and ask for her hand in marriage?
C. If she gets married to another guy, should I tell the whole story to her husband?
Question: What should I do?
Option 1: A
Option 2: B
Option 3: C
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