I was in a relationship with a guy for about 8 months during my teenage years. We then broke up. Even after the breakup, I didn’t move on. Then another guy came into my life through a mutual friend. He literally manipulated me into a relationship with him. He made me believe that he fell in love with me even before talking to me, without even knowing what I looked like just by hearing about me through this mutual friend.
He cooked up stories, portraying himself as the savior of my life. Not just my life he said he had saved many girls from miserable guys who had pictures of them and were blackmailing them. He even said that my previous boyfriend had morphed pictures of me on his phone and used to masturbate to them, and that he had hacked his phone and erased everything to “save” me. He also claimed he protected me from a planned acid attack.
When I asked if I could share this with our mutual friend, he made me promise not to, saying it could get him in trouble for hacking someone’s phone illegally. That mutual friend of ours made me talk to this guy, saying he was a gem. But this guy, on the contrary, said that our mutual friend was a womanizer and asked me not to stay close to him. I fell for him. We started sexting, and I shared my pictures with him. He made me promise not to reveal our relationship to our mutual friend.
Years later, my previous boyfriend came to my college to meet me, and that’s when I learned it was all a web of lies spun by this manipulator. I decided to walk away from both of them and that’s when he turned evil. He shared everything with our mutual friend and turned him against me. That mutual friend came to my home and convinced my mom that I was a playgirl and had cheated on both of them in the name of love.
They even spoke to my friends and turned them against me. He said he could control how people saw me, that he could make people talk shit about me in seconds. He claimed he could play mind games and ruin my life in the public eye. He even contacted my best friends, especially the boys, just to destroy my reputation. Then he called me and said that one of my close male friends was spreading lies about us having sexual relations, and that all our batchmates knew. He made sure to kill my peace.
He tried hard to detach me from all my friends, especially male friends, just so I would be alone and fall for his manipulation again. But this time, I woke up. I blocked him everywhere I could. But even now, he’s not letting me escape this trap. He teams up with people who hate me and poisons their minds. I had a misunderstanding with a colleague, and he used that chance to talk to her. Now she calls me a slut. He is ruining my name everywhere.
I’ve been living in this hell for the past 3 years, unable to escape the mental trauma. He blackmailed me, saying he has my chats and pictures and would show them to the world. I told him let the world see it all, from the beginning. Let them see who the manipulator was and who the victim was. I’ve lost my family’s trust. My friends call me a slut. I’ve lost my peace. I’ve lost myself. I cry myself to sleep every night. I’m all alone, fighting this. When will this end? Should I take legal action?
How do I heal from the mental trauma I’ve been through? Why is he doing this? I’m just sick mentally, emotionally, completely.